Sometimes a married person may wonder why his/her spouse has suddenly gone slow sexually.
Due to the high rate of infidelity in marriages and sexual immorality in the society, some innocent married couples may even misjudge or misunderstand each other.
However, experience from counselling and research have revealed that indifference for sexual intercourse by a party in marriage might be caused by some factors other than infidelity especially if he or she had been sexually active overtime.
The Bible says in 1st Corinthians 7:3-5,
“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.”
You might be shocked to know that partner might really not have any thoughts about sleeping with someone else. A sudden disinterest or apathy for sex could be as a result of the following.
1. STRESS: Your partner could be passing through a lot of stress that takes away his or her need to satisfy you sexually at a particular period. Communication should be the solution, communication in love will help him or her because it means alot in any relationship.
2. VIRAL INFECTION OR WEAK ERECTION: If your partner initially made sexual advances at you too frequently that got you worried, but has suddenly stopped making advances at all, don’t jump into a conclusion that he or she is seeing someone else, because, according to scientific research, infection could weaken erection for a man and could even reach its peak to sudden impotence if not checked. It could also affect female libido.
Do not allow your partner make all the advances, sexual activity ought to be for mutual pleasure.
Your partner could just be going through a medical issue, whereas, you are still there waiting for him or her to make advances as usual. You should rather do the needful than to jump into negative conclusions.
3. IGNORANCE ABOUT SEXUAL PLEASURES: If you refuse to communicate with your partner about your sexual desires, you will keep on battling emotionally and psychologically in marriage. Seek knowledge from your partner on how to satisfy him or her, know the best of your partners.
4. WORRIED MIND: if the mind is filled with so many challenges especially in a period like this where the economy of the country is not encouraging, sexual urge could be suppressed for either party. Sexual pleasure has a lot to do with your state of mind.
5.A SHOCKING SECRET ABOUT YOU: It is possible that your spouse just discovered something about you that he or she never knew about though you have been married for years. Just communicate and seek solutions to this challenge with an open mind than to assume that he/she is cheating on you outside the marriage.
The steps you should take when you realize that there’s a sudden drop in the sexual urge of your partner should be: Communicate, See a Counsellor, Pray.